Posts Tagged ‘soul mate’
It Takes More Strength To Remain In A Bad Relationship Than To Get Out Of It
If you ask someone who stayed in a bad relationship (or a bad marriage) much longer than they should have, most will say that, “I was scared to get out of it”. Most will quote an old saying – “The devil you know is safer than the devil you don’t,” roughly translating to, “The fear of the unknown is worse than the pain of known.” In other words, they are basically saying, “I know and am accustomed to the level of misery I subject myself to with this person – and if I were to leave – anything could happen, but here, I know what to expect.”
However, once they leave the relationship, most people realize that was an illogical way to look at things… but whoever said that love and relationships were logical?
In an intriguing new book, “Finding Your Soul Mate“, Sparkle Phillips analyzes her painful love experiences, ultimately realizing that she needed to do things differently if her circumstances were ever going to improve. She openly admits that she stayed in bad relationships long after all her friends had given up on her ever coming to her senses… yet, now she looks back upon her reasoning for staying in those relationships and can clearly see it was just pure “fear of the unknown” that kept her from getting out – even though Sparkle knew she was definitely in a bad relationship – and it had no hope for a brighter tomorrow.
The bitterest pill to swallow for her, was that her woman’s intuition told her not to enter into those relationships in the first place. “Except,” according to Phillips, “the sting of being alone overrode my gut instinct to run away. So, I ignored my own advice and entered into a relationship with the guy.”
- The sting of a bad relationship is far worse than the sting of being alone one more night.
- The sting of a bad relationship is far worse, than the sting of meeting someone you truly like while you’re not available to pursue them.
- The sting of a bad relationship can be physical if he’s an abuser or it can leave you deeply scarred emotionally if he emotionally abuses.
According to Phillips, if you’re in bad relationships over and over again, it isn’t because you’re attracting bad people into your experience, it’s because you are repeating the same lesson over and over and over again. If you were to learn these lessons, these types of situations would cease to be your experience.
For Phillips, these life lessons included: the lesson of self-esteem, learning to be able to trust herself and most of all – that love doesn’t have to hurt – just because you grew up in a dysfunctional home (and love there was also painful).
Using the “relationship autopsy” method, Sparkle was able to glean these and other messages that “Life” was working to teach her – every time with greater and greater emphasis.
“It was such a relief to finally accept these lessons were the purpose I had chosen these relationships. I stopped beating myself up for staying with them because now, I could have gratitude for them. Realizing that helped me create the big positive shift in my life towards what I really wanted: A loving partner in my life – in all areas of my life.”
All things in life are lessons, and these lessons can be failed. Therefore, just like in school they are repeated, usually using a different example to drive an critical point home. Love relationships are no different. If you’re still looking for that great love of your life, you need to start looking at the lessons life is offering up to you. Once you begin looking inside, what you see on the outside will have to change – almost always for the better.
Sparkle’s experience finally sorted itself out when she met her soul mate, less than ten weeks after she began this type of soul searching. To read her story and glean more of these useful insights, visit GreatRelationshipBooks.com.
Creating Marriage Relationships and the Law of Attraction
Coping With Marriage Relationships
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, Shares on Marriage Relationships…
What’s your emotional level at the start of another day? How about by the end of a day? Are you aware that you can meaningfully place your mood and have it influence the way things go for you every day?
I will admit it requires a little patience, but it sure is worth it. If you expect your day to go smoothly, or you imagine your superior at the office being a pain, in both cases, you are correct! Your vibration will, without fail, match your expectation. If you desire to attract Law of Attraction Marriage Relationships, contact a Life Coach for expert coaching today!
Why not set up your day by taking sixty seconds (or longer) to purposefully intend what you desire to happen. That’s how you turn into a meaningful creator instead of creating on autopilot. In fact, outdated autopilot functioning has your manifestation essentially already decided for you. The auto function has you acting in the recurring old way, getting continuously consistent results. They are so well-defined, you do not actually realize them. Actually, when you finally do realize this is when you desire to create an experience that’s just out of reach. When this occurs, usually you feel some negative emotion because you can’t understand how you’ll be able to accomplish your desire. A lot of people stop trying at that point to avoid experiencing an unpleasant let-down. Attracting a perfect Marriage Relationship with the Law of Attraction is possible, even after a difficult divorce (trust me, I’m exhibit A).
But not you. You’re practicing being a deliberate creator.
Here’s another good vibration practice: the End of Day Review. This is where you look for what worked. Praise yourself. And where something didn’t function very well, create a newer fresh energy. Remember when we were kids and you would miss a shot and called “Do-Over.” Just go through the event and re-create it with a preferred ending! This hones and sharpens the vibration in you so that when something like that happens again you will have a greater scale of outcomes to pick from, instead of an outmoded knee-jerk reaction.
Try it, I think you’ll like it. Happy Creating.
Law of Attraction Life Coach Shares Insights on Creating the Life You Truly Want
Nanette Geiger, Relationship Coach , writes… …
What can you think of about yourself that you love? Really, ponder this for a minute. What is absolutely unique and wonderful about you?
Here is an assignment: Create a list of everything you love about you. Alright, if love is too strong a word, search for what you really like and admire about you. Maybe you have luxurious hair, or perhaps your skin? What about your hands and fingernails? What do people praise you for? Your job is to find twenty-five things about yourself that you like, approve of, love, appreciate, or are unique to you. Put more on this list regularly. Watch as you create Law of Attraction Love into your life effortlessly.
Focus your attention on that which you utterly love and appreciate about YOU and watch how much you attract into your life! With the Universal Law of Attraction the possibilities for manifesting your desires are endless!
You are asking me, “So what do I become magnetic to?” You turn magnetic to whatever you’ve been asking for: a better financial situation, a better relationship, a new job, or a better body condition. You turn magnetic to whatever your dominant vibration is. You can get hugely valuable help from a Law of Attraction Coach to truly purify your intentions and free yourself from ingrained doubt.
Let’s take a look at a dictionary definition of Appreciation: An increase in the value of property, goods, etc. Intriguing… an increase in the value of… That could spell that if I appreciate everything that I have, I will actually have an increase of it. Ask yourself: “I wonder how that would work if I place more value the money I have, or the body I have, or the love that I currently have in my life”?
Personal appreciation creates more appreciative energy. And not just of yourself, but from others. Do not be surprised when your superior praises you on the great job you’ve been doing and recommends you for a promotion, or when the someone takes a second glance and asks you out for dinner.
Let me know what shows up! Happy Creating.
Creating True Love on Valentine’s Day
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist , writes… …
Valentine’s Day draws out the lovey dovey side in most of us. At the very least, it is a day that we’d LIKE to have the romantic drawn out in us. In a relationship or not, when you think about Valentine’s Day don’t you remember those absurd little cupid cards we would send around to our classmates in grade school or the cards we created in class for our parents?
Other references and reminders we have concerning Valentine’s Day and what it means to be in a relationship or not can have us feeling feel good or bad, depending on what memories are invoked. Unfortunately, the majority of how we feel, regardless of what the status of our relationship is is placed in our minds by the conditioned thinking that has been ‘out there’ in the collective consciousness.
Don’t listen to what they’re saying. Don’t pay attention if it does not lift your spirits and make you feel better about yourself. You’re perfect just the way you are.
If you want a relationship and do not have one, wonderful! You can clarify what you desire. Now you’re in a great place to start to create a relationship from a new initial point.
If you’re in a relationship and are not too content with the way things are going, fine. Now you can better understand what you DO want in your perfect relationship, based on the differences you’re presently living with. Get a free Relationship Coaching session today, no strings attached!
Valentine’s Day, whether you’re coupled or not, can be a day where you experience the romance that’s going to arrive! But, you must be proactive about this. You are the one who gets the first say and has the creative control of what you desire in your relationship. A Relationship Coach can help you get clear on what you want and help you achieve the relationship of a lifetime!
This is where many of us fall down on the job. We’re sitting on our thumbs while we wait for the circumstances to change out there. We are waiting for him to take charge. We are hoping that if we give him enough hints, he will take one and finally get into gear. WRONG. Don’t do that. That’s letting yourself be at the effect, instead of the causal end of your life. You get say. The only thing you have to do is make a simple request, to your current spouse or lover or to the Universe. Then, you will have to get out of the way. You need to let go of the how, the what, and the when of your request. Attachment to the outcome is essentially resisting what you desire. You cannot say “Come in” with your hand keeping the door closed and expect it to enter. Maybe that’s easier said than done. But that is why life coaching exists for those of us who need to gain clarity of why we’re not getting what we desire and then assist us in aligning with what we do so it can manifest. If you want to get a head-start on attracting the love of your dreams, you can get great coaching from a Law of Attraction Coach. Get your free consultation today!
It basically boils down to three steps. Ask, Align, and Allow. Simple, right? Not necessarily easy. Ask yourself “What could be available to me in a loving, aligned, co-creative partnership?” “What would be possible for me in my life if I had a mutual, loving relationship”? Think Big! Now start to live in the vibration of what your life would look like and feel like if you were enjoying that currently. Use your creativity – remember what you did so naturally as a child?
I am continuously deeply moved when I think of all of the amazing miracles I’ve created by way of manifesting my beloved husband. A little over four years ago, I was one of those people who had more unsettling closings to relationships than I’d want to admit. Then, I really buckled down with Law of Attraction. I did the play/work. I removed my barriers to love, got aligned and rapidly attracted the love of my life.
This Valentine’s Day, this year, I hope you are as blessed as I am in your relationship. I know you deserved it. By the way, a relationship is an ongoing mutual effort, as is life. I wish you a happy life, true love and perfect creation.
For more information on magnetically attracting your ideal love relationship, go here… http://www.magneticattractioncoaching.com
I have Continued Using the Law of Attraction, But My Ideal Love or Wonderful Career Has Not Arrived
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor , writes… …
I’ve been thinking positive thinking, but my love relationship or wonderful career has not shown up?
People often tell me that the Law of Attraction will work well for them when they’re trying to create a parking spot or get to work on time. But when it comes to the important matters of their life, like an ideal love relationship, or an improved financial status, they do not know what’s going wrong. Since the Law of Attraction says that like attracts like and you daydream about your ideal lover, then he or she will be created for you fairly soon, correct? Well, that depends. A Relationship Coach can help you use the Law of Attraction to get clear on your intentions.
It depends on what is REALLY going on in your belief system — What’s really happening with your vibrational energy. Keep in mind, the Universe reads and matches your vibration. So I ask you, to what extent do you truly BELIEVE you will create your soul mate? When I ask that question, lots of resisting energy bubbles to the surface. Many people do not have a clue at what’s happening in their subconscious. And the racket functioning in your subconscious perhaps is not even relating to manifesting love or more money. If you feel not worth what you want or are hard on yourself or others, chances are those things are big vibration busters. Getting help from a Law of Attraction Life Coach can help you clear out outdated thinking and help you on the road to your happiness!
These underlying beliefs are the unconscious drivers that keep your current reality kept in place. Realizing your emotions will tell you what your standard vibrational stance truly is throughout the day. By the close of the day, do you feel spent, annoyed, wrung out? Do some energy check-ups throughout your day. And reach for an improvement in the way you’re feeling, without thinking of what is happening in your life at that moment. It could take some practice, but you deserve it. These are things we teach at Self-Mastery Coaching. We address contradictory purposes in your belief system and begin the process of cleaning it up and clearing it out. It’s doable, it’s workable, but it does require patience. So do the work and relish in the results. You can create your own Law of Attraction Relationships today to help increase your positive vibration!