Avoiding The Friend Zone When You’re Taking Out A Woman
The dating world can be extremely difficult for us single folk. The web has allowed us to become extremely blunt with people; with websites like ‘chat roulette’ encouraging this atmosphere.
But occasionally, whether it’s out in the real world or through online dating sites, you’ll meet someone you like the look of and to your surprise, she says yes to a date. Then, a few weeks later, you suddenly find yourself being referred to as a ‘friend’, and she’s talking to you about other guys.
So how can you avoid being stuck in this friend zone? It can often be difficult, particularly if you’re one of those extremely polite people who don’t like the idea of not being friends with someone, but it can be done. With that in mind, here are some quick tips for staying out of the friend zone, or at least being able to spot when you’re in it:
Make your move. This one is simple but fairly crucial if you’re on a third or fourth date with a girl and you haven’t made it clear you like her or even tried to kiss her, you really should do. It can be tough if you’re shy but if you don’t she’ll eventually assume you’re not interested and move on.
If you ever notice that she’s let you see her when she’s looking messy, sweaty or dirty, then it’s fairly likely you’re already in the place you were trying to avoid. If you’re not close enough for her to be acting like that around you, or if you haven’t slept together yet, then more often that not that’s her way of showing you she doesn’t care if you find her attractive, because she’s not interested in anything other than friendship.
Try and make it clear to her exactly what you’re looking for, and draw distinct boundaries. Don’t EVER refer to her as your friend, mate, buddy or anything remotely similar. If she starts referring to you as her ‘friend’, her ‘bud’ or (the worst) ‘brother’, then you can basically be sure that she’s only interested in you as a friend.
If she brings up sleeping together at any point before the two of you have done so, then you need to make a move pretty soon. Her bringing the subject up is a less than subtle hint that she’s ready for you to sleep together. Most likely bought on by the fact that you haven’t tried to make a move. If you miss this opportunity, it’s fairly likely that there won’t be another one.
So hopefully that will help you a little to stay away from the dreaded ‘friend zone’, otherwise you’ll find yourself back on the dating sites, ticking the ‘men seeking women‘ category.