Do Opposite Personalities Really Attract?
Often times, we find ourselves attracted to people who are different from us. Is it because they are a breath of fresh air? Is it because we tend to want things we do not have? Or is this attraction limited to a certain extent?
Here and there, we hear of couples who are having problems because of differences. He loves the night life; she prefers watching her favorite late night show. He is not fond of kids; she wants twins nine months after they get married.
John and Victoria, when they were introduced at a party, instantly connected to each other. No sooner after exchanging phone numbers, they began dating. Victoria fancied the way John was so adept at the use of computers, which is totally not her. He may be frequently late, but she never minded this. What she focused on was discovering new things about him. Eventually however, and as expected, the early flames of passions soon began to cool down. Known for being punctual, Victoria soon began to be ticked off by Johns lack for regard of time.
He, on the other hand, began feeling the pangs of her nagging about his constant tardiness. To top it off, she wondered why he never thought of giving her golf gifts, given the fact that she is a golf lover and a collector of golf items. But how could John have thought of this? He was never into sports, and so would not understand the joys of collecting sports-related keepsakes. In relation to all these, Victoria doubts if John will ever get around to giving her a solitaire engagement ring and propose marriage.
At the same party, Jason and Christine were also introduced. That was that. However, they ended up seeing each other weekly because of a bowling tournament they joined. Having common friends, they would have coffee before going home. They started having practice games to warm up before the tournament starts. Jason grew to enjoy Christine’s company. They had much more to talk about. Unlike his former girlfriend, Christine shared his love for the sport; and so understood why he spent so much time and money on bowling.
Given the above scenario, do you think Mike and Kay will get to the point where they decide to marry and rejoice over early pregnancy signs together? Having mutual attraction in the early part of courtship is a big help. However, unless supported by compatible character, it is doubtful that it will go any further; and even more doubtful that it should.
There is nothing really wrong with either one of their lifestyles. It is just that they do not complement each other. If couples cannot find quality time to spend together, or have quality conversations, how can we expect for the relationship to grow?
Any chemistry between two people will need to be sustained. Otherwise, the flame dies down. So, before you let yourself fall for someone, see if you share enough things in common.